{"id":25,"date":"2020-09-12T13:30:31","date_gmt":"2020-09-12T13:30:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/learnfromnotes.com\/?p=25"},"modified":"2020-09-12T14:43:28","modified_gmt":"2020-09-12T14:43:28","slug":"who-to-trust-for-success-advice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/learnfromnotes.com\/who-to-trust-for-success-advice\/","title":{"rendered":"Who to take advice from?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_45_2 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"ez-toc-toggle-icon-1\"><label for=\"item-64170be924b38\" aria-label=\"Table of Content\"><span style=\"display: flex;align-items: center;width: 35px;height: 30px;justify-content: center;direction:ltr;\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/label><input  type=\"checkbox\" id=\"item-64170be924b38\"><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/learnfromnotes.com\/who-to-trust-for-success-advice\/#Different_types_of_people_you_could_take_advice_from\" title=\"Different types of people you could take advice from\">Different types of people you could take advice from<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/learnfromnotes.com\/who-to-trust-for-success-advice\/#Is_what_they_are_saying_good_advice\" title=\"Is what they are saying good advice?\">Is what they are saying good advice?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/learnfromnotes.com\/who-to-trust-for-success-advice\/#When_asking_for_advice\" title=\"When asking for advice\">When asking for advice<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/learnfromnotes.com\/who-to-trust-for-success-advice\/#Other_facts\" title=\"Other facts:\">Other facts:<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Different_types_of_people_you_could_take_advice_from\"><\/span>Different types of people you could take advice from<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>Yourself<ul><li>You know yourself the best<\/li><li>But&#8230;<ul><li>Your mind hides stuff for you<\/li><li>You may not have the right experience or knowledge<\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>People with success in what you want to achieve<ul><li><strong>Successful people<\/strong> don&#8217;t always know the truth<ul><li><strong>Luck:<\/strong> Millions of people might have used the same advice and <strong>failed! (Survivorship bias)<\/strong><\/li><li>The book &#8220;In search of excellence&#8221; identified 8 common traits from 50 successful companies,<ul><li>But out of the 35 that are publicly traded, 20 is now below the market average &amp; 5 went bankrupt!<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>But if they continue to have success upon success, then it&#8217;s more likely that they know what they are talking about!<\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Scientists<ul><li>Their entire careers are focused on finding the truth<\/li><li>But&#8230;<ul><li>They don&#8217;t know anything about your circumstances<\/li><li>Their science may be biased to sell some product.<\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Someone who failed<ul><li>Learn from their mistakes<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Coach or mentor<ul><li>They can get to know you &amp; may have faced the obstacles you are likely to encounter.<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Close relationships<ul><li>They know you better than most people.<\/li><li>But&#8230; they don&#8217;t want to hurt your feelings, so they might not tell the truth<\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Is_what_they_are_saying_good_advice\"><\/span>Is what they are saying good advice?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>Consider the advice giver&#8217;s background<ul><li>Knowledge &amp; life experiences<\/li><li>Motivations\/Goals<\/li><li>Emotional state<\/li><li>Consider if the advice-giver is accountable for the results<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Good advice is more likely to come<ul><li>If they have results &amp; have earned them<ul><li>Then they may have moved through the same obstacles that you will encounter<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>If they base their advice on many unbiased samples and know how to make conclusions from it (Scientists)<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Bad advice is more likely to come from<ul><li>People who don&#8217;t know your background<\/li><li>People with different circumstances or goals.<\/li><li>People who don&#8217;t practice what they preach<\/li><li>People who don&#8217;t want to hurt your feelings<\/li><li>Quitters (Even though they could be right)<\/li><li>People with a bias<ul><li>People who want to sell you something<\/li><li>Choice supportive bias<ul><li>Most people will give advice that supports the decision they made themselves.<\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"When_asking_for_advice\"><\/span>When asking for advice<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>Consider whether you already know the answer<\/li><li>Mention:<ul><li>Where you are<\/li><li>Where you want to go<\/li><li>The options you are already considering<\/li><li>Relevant context<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Don&#8217;t nod if you don&#8217;t understand the advice.<\/li><li>Listen to your own reaction when receiving the advice<ul><li>Be aware of confirmation bias<ul><li>We don&#8217;t like advice that contradicts what we already believe<\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Don&#8217;t act immediately. Give yourself time to process it.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Other_facts\"><\/span>Other facts:<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>People give advice based on what they want to do<\/li><li>Listen to many different opinions<\/li><li>The Dunning-Kruger Effect<ul><li>People who know nothing think they know everything<\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>This was my advice on who to take advice from&#8230; Do you agree?<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Different types of people you could take advice from Yourself You know yourself the best But&#8230; Your mind hides stuff for you You may not have the right experience or knowledge People with success in what you want to achieve Successful people don&#8217;t always know the truth Luck: Millions of people might have used the [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v18.0 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Who to take advice from? 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